I've come to see that the range of activities vary for me depending on my partner. My general philosophy has evolved to the point that I believe anything which does not harm oneself or another is within the realm of normal.Īs a bisexual man, I have enjoyed a range of sexual behavior with my wife and with my buddies through the years. It almost defies the label of normality because human beings simply engage in an astounding variety of sexual activities. The point to all of this is that from my own experience and observation, human sexuality is dynamic. Most of the guys, however, were faithful to their wives and would never have thought of infidelity. A couple of the guys made extramarital affairs and one night stands into an art form. A few of us had had an extramarital affair with another woman. I, and I suspect one other guy, was a closeted bisexual guy. The relationship never took a sexual turn, but there was very little we didn't talk about. The constant traveling together brings guys close and we got to know each other very well. We were all about the same age and had things in common other than our career. My travel was a little different from normal business travel in that there was a team of guys traveling together.
I found being a top was a very enjoyable experience with him though with subsequent buddies, such activity again reverted back to not being a normal thing. Later, in my first adult relationship, my buddy loved to be fucked and he got off on my big cock and liked it as rough and hard as I could make it. I was big enough that he quickly decided the idea of being fucked was better than the reality of being fucked, and that was the only time I ever experienced anal activity as a kid. However, that said, one of my friends eventually talked me into topping him. It seemed like a dirty thing to do to me, and it wasn't like I wasn't having enough fun sexually without it. I loved sucking cock and having mine sucked and all through my school years, I had one or more suck buddies. Anal sex was hardly ever even spoken of in the group except derisively and it was always engaged in privately one on one. It was always an activity which was engaged in privately and one on one. I've never used illegal drugs but I suppose, I came to seek out the highs of orgasm just as a junky comes to seek his drug high.įellatio was not a group activity. When I first became a part of the group at around age 6, emission was, of course, not possible for me but orgasm was. Generally, this was mutual masturbation where buddies would jerk each others cock either to orgasm or orgasm and emission. Within the group, most activity centered around simple masturbation. I did it because I absolutely was in to it. They did it because that is what the group did. Other boys were willing to play, but they would have been willing not to play too. In fact, after my initiation into the group, in all honesty, I have to admit, I became an instigator. The reality is, I didn't spend much time thinking about it all as a boy. Looking back, the differences are more obvious to me now than they were at the time. Yet even in the charged sexual environment in which I came of age, there were differences among us. I was surprised when, as an adult, I eventually developed sexual relationships with other adult men who told me they were, for the most part, unaware anything sexual in nature until they were 12 years old or even older. It was so pervasive a part of life, I thought it to be the type of life every boy lived. Almost all the boys I grew up with were eager and willing participants in daily group sexual activities. I've found sexual behavior is almost as varied and multifarious as humanity itself. I've studied it, read about it, observed it and participated in it on many different levels. Having always from my earliest memories been an actively sexual person, I've paid a lot of attention to sex over the course of my life. Some less charitable straight people just label everyone else as perverts and let it go at that.
Of course there is a bright side to being labeled homosexual or bisexual.