Bears anywhere from 19-35 aren't afraid to exclude and be jerks. They're the ones who won't bitch if you're not 190+ pounds and don't have a Paul Bunyan gene inside you. Find men who were with the culture from the beginning. That, and that we had betrayed our own kind or something. My advice, if you want to find the kinder and more accepting bears, go older. When I went to gay night at Six Flags and held his hand, we were shot dirty looks from both 'twinks' AND Bears, because we were breaking some invisible list of rules that opposites can no longer attract. He rejects stereotypes, loves me for me, and respects anyone who respects him. I'm a 5'4 average looking latino guy, and I'm dating a man who's 6'5, hairy, bearded, and deep voiced.
The problem is that Bear culture CONTINUES to fake the acceptance of everyone when really that limit ends with the last sub genre of their culture (Otters). They pick and choose who to talk to, who they're willing to be friends with, specific clothing to let their bear status be known, and even become exclusive of who they'll appear in pictures with. They advertised themselves as the 'more accepting' group as opposed to the other stereotypes. Today, Bears can be just as BAD as the other stereotypes. Bears didn't care if you had a beard, body hair, weight, or could wear leather. The whole Bear culture began way before the young men's time today, and WAS actually a way for being accepted no matter who you are.
( read full piece here)įor me, my experience with bears has been a double edged sword. It’s better now not to trim at all – to have thick, wild and luscious pubes, to relish hairy asses. A hairy treasure trail down the stomach sets my heart aflutter, and a hairy chest has the power to make my face flush.Īnd now, with the unstoppable force of cultural trend, we’re delving ever deeper into the world of body hair. Hairy legs and forearms will get any boy a second date. I have always found body hair incredibly hot. And even though I’m surprised by how we got here, I am delighted to have arrived. Bears and wolves and otters and all the other animal-themed hair-based gay typologies that I’ve probably never heard of. I recently read a commentary by Al Mackay of where he speaks of Cape Town, South Africa as becoming more bear-centric. Can a gay subsection run a town? Can a town have a predominantly type of gay man residing in it? And could bears be taking over in some towns? This is something I need to look into more. I was thinking, sure, there are bear theme nights, and predominantly bear clientele in many of the bars, but running this town? Well clearly he may have been a little skewed since he was talking to me, a bear, and he was attracted to bears, but he may have a point. for its percentage of gay residents as a proportion of total population (about 14%). He was speaking of Wilton Manors, FL., 2nd in the U.S. He said, “you’re so lucky, Bears run this town.” I was a little shocked to hear this, but I wasn’t about to argue with this sexy young man. Something he said made me relook at where I live and maybe what time we live in. One of my current conversations with a guy on, you know, one of those apps was a little eye opening.